…What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. And when we bring what is within us out into the world, miracles happen.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Be assured that change is inevitable.
Life is constantly evolving and creating, and therefore transitions will naturally occur…. sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly, but continously for sure. Transitions are life’s catalysts for assisting us to grow and learn more about ourselves. Transitions push us into uncharted territory to discover and experience other attributes of ourselves that we had no idea existed. Some transitions can be prepared for, some are totally unexpected, some are wanted, while others are certainly not. Whatever the case may be – a new baby, a career change, caring for your parents, or perhaps a death of a loved one – transitions happen to all of us, and we all move through them in our own unique way.
A couple of weeks ago, a very dear friend of mine passed away. Her name is Diana. She had been diagnosed with cancer about a year ago, she fought the good fight… and she left this Earthly existence in her beautiful home up in Mount Shasta. I’m sure an entourage of angels escorted her Home, where she was greeted by her loved ones that had gone before. Although I had known about her health condition since she was diagnosed, I was truly shocked when I heard the news. It was so surreal, as my mind could not comprehend the fact that she was gone…gone from my life in the way that I had been used to being with her. Diana and I had spoken the week before she died, and I’m truly grateful that my parting words to her were, “I love you so much”.
Death’s powerful message is always –
Live now, enjoy life, it goes by so fast.
So, I am encouraged to look around, be present to really what’s going on and to appreciate what I have… to use the good china, open that bottle of aged Port, call that friend, forgive and let go of past grievances… for no other reason except that I can, and now is as good a time as any.
Now I’m someone that has read a lot (and I mean a lot) of spiritual/self-empowerment books, and no matter how many pearls of wisdom I know, it still does not take away the deep sadness that I sometimes experience.
So, I’d like to share some suggestions to help ease those times of transitions…
that can often bring about feelings of anxiety, uncertainty, fear and sadness…
Jean Trebek’s 13 Tips
To Help You Move Through Life’s Transitions
1. Accept Your Feelings
Be more compassionate or accepting of your feelings, resisting them takes more energy.
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality.”
― Lao Tzu
2. Ask yourself …
Given what is … what would bring me comfort?
3. do something sweet for yourself
Buy some flowers, get a massage, a new tea, or enjoy an ice cream sundae.
4. Move it
Move – walk, run, stretch, dance, swim or ride a bike. Physical exercise can lift up your mental well-being by reducing your stress and anxiety over life transitions. It increases your ‘feel-good’ endorphins, promotes confidence and can shift your thinking away from negative thoughts with a good healthy distraction.
5. Do something nice for someone
Do something nice for someone else…it get’s you out of your head, and it always feels good to give to another. “And the best thing is the feeling you are left with, like a little surprise party for the soul”
6. Ask for help
7. Get some zzz’s
Get enough sleep. Skimping on sleep can mess with your mood and make it tough to focus. Staying sharp and positive can help you discover an easier path to move through the changes presented before you.
9. watch a comedy movie
10. talk with a friend
Hey, we all go through tough times. A good friend will listen and sit next to you on the bus.
“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
— Oprah Winfrey
Put your frustrations and troubles down on paper. Actively engage with your thoughts.
“A personal journal is an ideal environment in which to become. It is a perfect place for you to think, feel, discover, expand, remember, and dream.” – Brad Wilcox
12. calming rituals
Create a significant ritual – light a candle and say a prayer. Calming rituals are proven to reduce stress.
13. take a salt water bath
Elevate your mood and sleep better by taking some relaxing time for you with a calming hot bath!
And remember…. this too shall pass and you are never alone.
Jean is a Professional Religious Science Practitioner, Reiki Master and Sound Healer. She grew up on Long Island, NY, and now lives in Los Angeles with her wonderful husband of 29 years, Alex, and has 2 amazing adult children, Matthew and Emily. Jean enjoys taking long walks, watching movies, and traveling. She is very grateful for her family, Willy the dog, friends and good coffee.
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