Let’s face it…it’s easy to feel happy when everything is going your way, but who are you really when relationships and situations are not how you’d like them to be?
What comes to mind when I think of the word Character, are basically two different personality types: The optimistic and the pessimistic.
“The optimist sees the donut, the pessimist sees the hole.“
– Oscar Wilde
The optimist has a belief system or deep sense that life is essentially good and that situations actually turn out for the best.
An optimistic person has an open mind which allows for more energy to flow. That openness creates a sense of joy which then is reflected back in the outer world. For example, the “glass is half full” because you see it that way.
The pessimist’s feelings are more rooted in fear and lack and complaining is the pessimist’s language. Pessimistic people don’t usually think that they are being negative and, even though they feel that they are “telling it like it is”, they have a tendency to present their situations in a hopeless way. However, as Minister Will Bowen put it, “Complaining is like bad breath – you notice it when it comes out of someone else’s mouth, but not when it comes out of your own.” Lol! It’s so true!!!
Most of us are somewhere in the middle and depending on the particular situation and the personal beliefs we have, we show up according to how we’ve been either taught by our parents or how society has conditioned us to feel.
You Can Change Your Mindset
The good news is that our way of perceiving situations, relationships, the world and our life is not set in stone… we can change our mind and that is VERY good news.
Ways to Shift Your Mindset
Change Your Inner Interpretation
Change your perception from “I have to do a certain thing” to “I get to do a certain thing”. The energy feels so much more lighter and brighter which will just keep you in the flow.
“I get to clean out the garage” or “I have to clean out the garage” reflect two very different experiences. Which feels better to you?
Change Your Outer Interpretation
Change the way you take in the outer world such that you are thinking that the Universe is always giving to you: “This event is happening for me” rather than “this event is happening to me” – that way you stay in a creator position in life rather than a victim. Victims have no power, and when you feel like you have no power emotions like depression and anger can result.
Gratitude is really the key to shifting your mindset. Challenge yourself for 40 days to find evidence of goodness in life. If it’s hard for you, start with the fact that you are at least willing to be grateful. Write down your findings and say them out loud before you go to bed. Trade in your expectations for appreciation and lastly, give a compliment to at least one person every day.
By JEAN TREBEK
Jean is a Professional Religious Science Practitioner, Reiki Master and Sound Healer. She grew up on Long Island, NY, and now lives in Los Angeles with her wonderful husband of 29 years, Alex, and has 2 amazing adult children, Matthew and Emily. Jean enjoys taking long walks, watching movies, and traveling. She is very grateful for her family, Willy the dog, friends and good coffee.
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