by Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D | Dec 31, 2020 | Expert Advice, Featured, Guest Writers
I’m not blaming anyone. It’s part of our current feel good culture to try to find a remedy for whatever is ailing us. It’s just so hard during this pandemic when ALL of us are somewhat depressed, somewhat anxious and somewhat needing really badly to get away from it...
by Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D | May 18, 2020 | Expert Advice, Featured, Guest Writers
Skillful Beauty A story from a woman I thought I knew caught my eye as I scanned through my social media apps. The last time I saw her was last summer at an impromptu gathering of horse nerds like me, a family of women who share memories and love of all things horsey....
by Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D | Apr 19, 2020 | Expert Advice, Guest Writers
Possibilities are just that. Possibilities have no party affiliation, no good or bad label on them. Not really. They just are. It’s the attitude we bring to them that can make a difference. In graduate school I had a professor who was known for being gruff. He was...
by Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D | Mar 17, 2020 | Expert Advice, Featured, Guest Writers
Take the initiative to invite good, solid communication. A popular book for parents is How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk. Isn’t that title genius? Right there is the invitation to take responsibility for what is happening in the...
by Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D | Feb 20, 2020 | Expert Advice, Featured
~ Guest Writer, Dr. Elvira G. Aletta, PhD. ~ “All worthwhile endeavors are 90% work and 10% loveand only the love should show.” – Chuck Jones When I was six, maybe seven years old, I got an ice cream sundae. It was the real thing: whipped cream, chocolate sauce, nuts...
by Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D | Dec 20, 2019 | Expert Advice, Featured, Guest Writers
~ Guest Writer, Dr. Elvira G. Aletta, PhD. ~ 5 Tips on how to Receive the Gift of A Compliment You just finished a conversation with a colleague, student, friend. You are both quietly wrapping up, gathering your stuff when she blurts out: “I think you are...
by Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D | Nov 23, 2019 | Expert Advice, Featured, Guest Writers
“We can disagree and still love each other unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist.” ~James Baldwin ~ Guest Writer Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D. ~ Dreading the upcoming holidays? Afraid to go to your mother’s house...
by Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D | Oct 22, 2019 | Expert Advice, Featured, Guest Writers
~ Guest Writer, ELVIRA G. ALETTA, PhD. ~ By living we take risks. By trusting we take the biggest risk of all. When betrayal happens our foundation crumbles from underneath us. I mean, it’s one thing if someone we don’t expect to have our interests at heart is cruel....
by Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D | Aug 29, 2019 | Expert Advice, Featured, Guest Writers
~ Guest Writer, Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D ~ Growing up, I thought there were two states of being in a relationship. War or Peace. My parents, dear, flawed role models that they were, appeared to have that kind of relationship. From a kid’s point of view, they...
by Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D | Jul 17, 2019 | Expert Advice, Featured, Guest Writers
~ Guest Writer, Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D ~ One of the first words we learn as infants is no. If we do our job right, growing up we use no to set boundaries. The toddler’s no translation would look like this: “Excuse me, madame, but when you insist that I share my toys...
by Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D | Mar 24, 2019 | Expert Advice, Featured, Guest Writers
~ Guest Writer, Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D ~ New beginnings. Why don’t we just call them New, “What again?!”-ses. Because isn’t life like that? A series of downs and ups? These days we hear a lot about failure being such a great thing. How...
