Cheryl Farrell

Following our discussion of “Being Present”, Cheryl Farrell looks at the word “present” and challenges us to stay in the now.

Thank you, Cheryl!

There are at least three ways to use the word “present.”

One is to receive a gift and a second is to be a gift to others by way of our attention and care. This time of year, gift-giving is top of mind.

A third use of the word “present” is about time. That is, living fully in the here and now. This is especially difficult given the human impulse to escape scary times. 

How Do We Stay Alert and Hopeful?

I find the answer in classic literature as well as modern times. Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol takes us on mystical time travel to see how Ebenezer Scrooge, the uncaring miser, is transformed in his present moment.

Social media influencer and researcher Brené Brown challenges us to write what matters most on a piece of paper the size of a sticky note. She says, “I carry a small sheet of paper in my wallet that has written on it the names of people whose opinions of me matter. To be on that list, you have to love me for my strengths and struggles …”

After completing her challenge, I found no room for what happened in the past or what I imagine for the future. That small square is fully dedicated to my present (time) and is a gift to myself and others.

The Three "Presents"

Living in the moment is …

  • A delicate balance between two extremes. On the one hand, ignoring the past and on the other, obsessing with the future.

  • Gratitude for material and spiritual, big and small things. (I am grateful for the 72 beats of my heart in the minute it takes to read this article.)

  • Giving a sweet kiss to the past, a gentle nod to the future, and a full embrace of the present
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Cheryl Farrell is a guest writer for insidewink.com

Cheryl Farrell

Cheryl Farrell is a corporate communications consultant and performance storyteller in Southern California. She has decades of experience in healthcare, education, and financial services. Cheryl was an original cast member of the Jeopardy! Clue Crew (2001 to 2008) and toured the world appearing in more than 1,000 video clips. She is developing a book proposal that examines how older black women excel at the intersection of race, gender, and age. Cheryl has a master’s degree in Communication Management from USC and a bachelor’s degree in economics from UCLA. She is married and has two adult children.

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